
What’ve you been up to lately? I’ve gotten into the habit of doing these posts every month, where I share snippets of things that have been on my mind or that just don’t neatly fit into normal posts. I like the thought of catching up one-on-one, don’t you? Here are some of my recent thoughts and random mutterings.
1. Getting out of my usual routine is so necessary for me. I’m in Miami right now (leaving today) and next month I’m heading to Salt Lake City, Utah, for a conference. It just feels rejuvenating to experience new places, people, even weather. It’s nice to relieve myself of my usual routines.
2. Speaking of routines, I’m realizing that I kind of hate them. Like, a lot. I am a “starter,” in the sense that I love creating events, projects, workshops, etc, but I tend to get bored when things continue to be the same. I NEED things to constantly be evolving or changing otherwise I just feel very stuck and almost claustrophobic. This doesn’t necessarily mean that I need to be bouncing off the walls everyday, but I enjoy moving to different tasks and focusing on growth. I’ve read that this is part of the INFJ personality. It is absolutely both a blessing and a curse and one that doesn’t seem so bad now, but kind of scares me for when I’m older and still feel the need to constantly be doing something more or different.
3. I taught Monja how to “roll over” the other day. He learns things so quickly and it’s hilarious to watch him do it. I absolutely can’t wait to pick him up from his dog hotel later today. I missed that little fuzzhead more than I expected and have peaked more glances at the hotel’s Doggie Webcam than I’d like to admit.
4. Ever since downsizing my sponsorship program, I’ve felt a renewed energy for blogging. It’s really helped to release some of the “obligation” I felt toward blogging and to be able to focus on a smaller group of people each month.
5. I really believe that we get pangs of intuition from time to time that tell us which decisions we need to make. Those feelings usually creep up suddenly, but avoiding them is debilitating to me. I’ve ended relationships, quit jobs, and made major changes to my life because one day I woke up realizing it was what I need to do. I’m only mentioning this because I felt those pangs regarding my sponsorships, but I think reading our intuition is so important for any important decision.
6. I’m going to Alt Summit in a couple weeks. Alt Summit is a blogging and design conference and though I’ve never been, I’ve heard and read over and over that fashion and creative business cards are a big thing there. Basically, people go nuts. I mean seriously, LOOK at these business cards. I’ve been brainstorming cute and clever ideas that I could try, but it’s hard to pinpoint something that represents who my blog and I are in a creative, meaningful way.
7. By the way, have you seen my new portfolio page? It’s my first step in transferring my graphic design studio over to this site!
8. Would you like to write a book one day? I’d love to! But I find that narrowing down ideas to something I could write 300 pages on feels incredibly daunting. Anyone have suggestions or tips? I often think of little snippets I’d like to include in a book — mostly things I’d like readers to feel or understand, but I haven’t a clue how to weave them together! Like my intuition spiel above, something tells me that one day I’ll just know when I have something that needs to be said. Or maybe I’m just being naive!
9. Recently, I’ve decided to start investing in nicer clothing. I’m used to being able to pop into Forever 21 and leave with ten things for the amount it costs to buy one quality dress somewhere else, but it feels like an investment to purchase better and more timeless clothing items. I still shop at cheap stores sometimes, but I’d like to slowly add more and more quality items to my wardrobe that will last for more than one season.
10. I’ve been trying to communicate more in blogging — as in, I’ve tried to respond to blog comments within a day or two, I’ve been patrolling Twitter more often, and I’ve been trying to read and comment on other blogs more, too. I think this change came after I attended my first blog conference and noticed that so many of the bloggers were friends and I often felt like the odd one out. I’m hoping to change that, eventually!
11. Which places would you most like to visit? I’d love to go to Denmark, Berlin, Paris, Portugal, and Peru, among about 100 others. Since I can work from just about anywhere that has an internet connection, the thought of living abroad for a month is super enticing. I just struggle with what I’d do with Monja, since he probably wouldn’t be able to come with and I wouldn’t want to leave him anywhere he wouldn’t be happy. Has anyone ever traveled for longer periods while leaving their dog behind? What did you do with them? I’d miss him so much!
Well, I’ve blabbed enough for one day…your turn!
Tell me about your month — what have you been up to?
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Sarah at Yes and Yes did a True Story interview aaaaaaaaages ago about someone who travels full time with her dog! Might be worth a read to see what travel options you have with Monja 😀 http://www.yesandyes.org/2013/04/true-story-i-travel-full-time-with-my.html
That was awesome to read, thanks for sharing Manda! I hadn’t considered traveling by boat, but I’m going to look into that now!
I wonder if your #2 affects #8? I love routines and being in the middle of long projects, but I can imagine that 300 pages would feel like a slog if you prefer starting new challenges often. Maybe you could write a book of short stories with all of your ideas!
Oohhhh intuitive you are. I’ll have to think about that!
I love the idea of going somewhere for a month, I wanted to do it this summer but it did not work out~
Hopefully we both can do this soon! Where would you go?
I feel the same way about wanting to write a book! Hopefully someone can give some insight
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Me too. But I always get stuck wondering WHAT to write
haha saaaame here! Why is that so hard?!
Glad to know I’m not alone!
Your portfolio is looking AWESOME, Melyssa! I am absolutely swooning over the watercolor header you did.
Um, YOU’RE awesome, Kai. Thank you for the support 🙂
I recently taught our lab how to roll over, and I refer to it as the “trick that keeps on giving” because it makes me giggle every time she does it. It’s such a cute thing to see! 🙂
haha that’s awesome! I would love to see a big lab do that, how cute!
Greece is on my must see list. It WILL happen. I’m writing a novel. Mine is fiction and it’s really hard but it feel really rewarding to be working on something I’ve always wanted to do.
That’s awesome, Cece! I bet it’s a great feeling. Hopefully I’ll join you one day. 🙂
I had no idea being a “starter” was an INFJ trait. I’m an INFJ, so that’s good to know and I feel like I’m the same way.
Ha, I just wrote pretty much the exact comment Erin! Somehow knowing it’s an INFJ trait makes it feel more justified to me. 🙂
YEAH! What I’ve read (and feel in myself, too) is that INFJs are centered around growth and dreams. How I see this translated in my life is having big dreams and then working to make them happen. That’s neat that you feel like you’re the same way! INFJs are pretty cool. 🙂
I hope you get the chance to work abroad sometime soon! Exploring a new country is always so enticing and fun–I hope you can make that a reality soon! The beaches of Portugal are simply stunning! xo, gina
I hope so too! And that’s very encouraging. 😀
I’ve never been to a blogging conference, and I’ve always wanted to try it out. I feel like I’d be the odd one out too, and I’m also working on communicating more. And I completely relate to the motivation and liberation from changing sponsorship options. Since I’ve done away with sponsorships, I feel like I actually enjoy blogging more!
– Rachel @ With Love, Rachel
Isn’t it totally freeing to not have to worry so much about sponsorships? I’m really happy about it, too!
And don’t worry, I honestly felt very odd-man-out-ish at my first blog conference last month, but I think I needed that so that I could analyze it and brace myself for Alt this month. You should try one out sometime! 🙂
Looking forward to hearing your take on Alt…that is awesome! I would like to see what you do for your business card too…I looking for cool designs on Pinterest. I want to visit them all 🙂 I would love to be able to live in Europe for a while.
I’ve been trolling Pinterest for ideas, too! I think I’ve got an idea — we’ll see how it works out. 🙂
Don’t do Berlin! It’s such a terrible, grimey city, and while it has a nice art scene, that’s about it in redeeming qualities. If you really wanna do Germany, you should do Hamburg, Cologne or the beautiful wine region around Neustadt/Bad Dürkheim. And no, I’m not at aaaaaall biased towards that last one because it’s where I’m from 😉
I really love this series so much – I always feel like I get to know you that little bit better after reading it 🙂
I like these monthly catch up posts Melyssa! I recently decided to do something similar on Sundays called “Between Me + You”. I can relate to the majority of your thoughts, especially 5, 8 and 9. I recently posted about finding my way and one of the things I talked about was how much I loved creative writing + journalism in high school. I’ve been reading some books on my kindle about writing. I think the key is to just start which I did just the other day and it felt awesome. I have a goal of when I want to be done with a book I am confident in, but it’s a soft goal. Right now I’m happy with what I’ve got so far but who knows, in a week I may decide to start over. To help my ideas flow I made a loose outline. As I think of something else, I insert it where it’s most appropriate on the outline and keep it moving. The point is just start and get those creative juices flowing. Like you said, “THE BOOK” will flow out of you eventually.
You are so right, Keiz! And I am SO with you on the idea of just getting started. I’ve noticed that I tend to drag out that “getting started” part because I want everything to be perfect, but that’s no way to learn! Good luck to you and your book — an outline is a great idea, too!
I love monthly catch-ups – sometimes we have so much to say that can’t be worded well in any other post. I would like to hear more about you and the sponsorship transition, though! Also the idea of living abroad for a month does sound amazing! What a great way to see the world. :]]]
Thanks Z! Glad you like ’em! And I totally agree — maybe when my apartment lease is up I can be a nomad for awhile 😀
#3 made me smile. You should take a video of Monja doing tricks sometime. I’ve been thinking about doing that with Mina. She’s so funny when I try to do roll over with her, because she can roll over, but rolling onto her back for a tummy rub is such a default position for her that she rolls over onto her back and stays and then has to work up momentum to roll onto her other side.
In terms of starting a book, my advice would be to buy a notebook or a pack of note cards and start writing down ideas as they come to you. You’ll probably start to notice some trends and that might help you decide what to write about. Are you interested in nonfiction or fiction? If you’re interested in nonfiction, if you have an idea you could also sit down and write it. I do this with poetry and I start to see trends and ways to group my poems together into a chapbook. The essays that don’t make the cut for your book can be used for future books or can be published on their own in journals. Also, when you’re ready to start writing a book I highly recommend looking at a program other than Word. I use Scrivener and I don’t know why it took me so long to buy it, but I don’t know what I did before Scrivener. I know a lot of people who use it and love it. It’s only about $50, I think. I bought it a few years, but it was a little cheaper because I had a coupon code from participating in NaNoWriMo.
If you’d like to talk more about writing a novel, that’s my strength so I can talk for hours about that. 🙂
Have fun at Alt Summit! I heard it’s a blast. And speaking of business cards, I have been drooling over these. They are gorgeous! http://paperfashion.net/2014/05/28/tiny-works-art/
You rock my world, Crystal! Thank you for these tips! I often carry a notebook (or my phone’s notepad) around, but I love the idea of notecards since they seem easy to piece together with patterns and storylines. I’m also going to look into Scrivener. I think buying something like that would motivate me, too. Thank you so much!
My design is on your new portfolio page! I feel special. 🙂 Isn’t it great to have a job where you can work from anywhere? Just so you know, I would love to take care of Monja if you decided to disappear for a month, and I am sure many other local bloggers would offer too!
Special you are! 🙂 And you’re so sweet — might have to take you up on that one day. 😉
hi mel 🙂 it was nice reading about your thoughts for the month! oh man, my month has been a big mess… living in my parents’ living room, looking for an apartment, trying to figure out what I’d do with my Yorkie, trying to figure out how I’m going to afford life when I start school in September and reduce to working 60% (meaning having 60% of my salary) and mending a broken heart….life can be a little tough sometimes! xxx
Aww Michelle I’m so sorry to hear that this month has been difficult. I had a bit of a difficult month in March, so I understand how hard it can be when things feel like they’re piling up on top of you. I think I’ve come to just realize and accept that things always work out one way or another, even if they have to suck first. Sending you positive juju and hugs! 🙂
You are too sweet! Thank you 🙂 x
I am also an INFJ! I had no idea being a starter was one of the characteristics, that sums me up perfectly!
That’s awesome to hear! I’ve read that INFJs are big on growth, which I think can translate into constantly want to start and evolve things in their lives. 🙂