A little less than two years ago, I created a free Facebook group called Online Business BFFs (formerly Blog + Biz BFFs). When I originally created this group, my life and business were virtually unrecognizable from what they are now.
I was wrapping up my former business as a web designer, had just launched my first online course, and had a team of one — me. My newfound business as a course creator was a little more simple at that time. There were less duties to take care of, less team members to worry about, and more opportunity to spend time in my newly formed Facebook community, where I sought to bring people together and create a community that felt positive and uplifting for its entrepreneurial members (even though I’m closing this group, I still feel that FB can help you get more clients.)

And I’ve been thrilled that so much of my vision has come to fruition inside the Online Business BFFs group. Relationships have formed. Collaborations have taken place. And more or less, the community has continued to be a hopeful, positive, and inclusive place to hang out.
But now, 22 months later, things are a little different for me.
We have a team of 7 people now (3 of which are paid admins of this group and help out with it on a daily basis). We are juggling multiple projects at every moment and discovering new ways to serve our community to our highest potential. And we’ve also developed several new products and paid student communities — 3 of which didn’t exist when I first created this group.
And because of all this change and growth and shift of our purpose, I haven’t been as present in my group as I was able to be when it was first created. As we move into a new chapter (and as I pursue a model of community that creates deeper connections), we are looking to form events, masterminds, and workshops in the near future — ways for us to bring a sense of true community to all of you, with lasting relationships.
But in order to do that, not only for the sake of our time, but for the sake of creating a business that’s in alignment with my core values, we’ll be closing down the Facebook group on July 17, 2017.
See, one of my core values that I seek in everything I do with my life and business, is to create and facilitate communities and relationships where people feel deeply seen, connected, and valued. And as much as there is to gain inside of a free Facebook group like the Online Business BFFs, I know we can do better, serve you better, and love you better.
Closing the group was a very, VERY hard decision for me and my team.
But as the group has grown and our own vision has evolved, we eventually realized that the evolution of the group no longer fits the vision that we once had for it, and that we know we can serve you all in bigger, better ways by focusing our energy on new things.
The group has also, admittedly, taken up a lot of energy and space in my mind and heart. As our number of paid students increases, I’ve found myself pulled in so many directions to try and help everyone — including members in my free group. I’d love to pretend that that — and you — don’t matter to me, but that wouldn’t be true, and my inability to be fully present there and in my paid groups has made me feel guilt and shame.
As much as I’d love to help everyone (trust me on that!), I know my time is best spent focusing on the students who have invested their own energy in my courses and membership program.
Personally, I see this as a win for the members of the Online Business BFFs group, because it will free up myself and my team to create and plan experiences that are even more helpful and connective than what sometimes feel like surface-level interactions that occur in free Facebook groups (read about some of my other favorite groups!)
I know that we can create communities — both online and in-person — that are transformative and life-changing, but I hope you understand why I no longer feel like this Facebook group accomplishes that, at least for me and the vision I have for all of you.
Here’s what I recommend if you want to engage with our community moving forward:
1. Reach out to members in the group that you’ve connected with so that you can stay in touch after the group closes on July 17th. This is the perfect time to segue your relationships to ones that are closer and more meaningful.
2. Look out for any popup groups we form in the future. As you’ve probably seen, we create free challenges and free courses every few months, and may create some limited-time Facebook groups that you can be part of for some intensive learning and relationship building.
3. Join my email list, which is the first place I’ll announce any future events, conferences, retreats, or communities we decide to form. You can join by clicking here and signing up.
Overall, I hope you’ll support this decision. It wasn’t an easy one to make by any means. Lots of people told me I should keep this group (“It has 70,000 members! Why would you ‘throw that away’?!”), but as I shift my life and business to living in alignment with my true purpose, I’ve found that connection is most important to me, and I know this is the right decision for all of us.
Thank you for being here and being part of this. I can’t wait to serve you even better. 🙂














This must have been a really hard decision for you Melyssa but you must stay true to yourself and your Vision. We all appreciate everything the community has given us 🙂
Thank you so much, Mandi 🙂
Oh no! That’s so sad! I love this group, I’ve learned so much from it and was so grateful that your group is still going strong while so many people are closing theirs… Well, but I support your decision and trust you that if you’ve created such a great group you’ll think of something even more awesome. Will you just archive it so we can stoll have access to the posts already there?
I’m curious about this, too! There are so many helpful posts in the group; it’d be sad for them to just die. ????
Yes 🙂 Melyssa confirmed she would archive the group. So you should still be able to access and browse through the content even after it’s closed, so long as you remain a member.
Thank you so much for the love and support. 🙂 Yes, the group will be archived.
Thank you so much! 🙂
Thank you so much Melyssa 🙂 While I’m sad to no longer utilize this great asset, I totally understand your reasons why. You must stay true to your own vision. Such a large group with your name on it could become a liability. Wishing you all the very best in your future endeavours, I know you will do great things! I will be following along. Much love, Dust x
Thank you so much for always spreading such love and light, Dust!
I respect your decisions and look forward to what is next.
Thank you so much, Elise. 🙂
Wow 70,000 people I had no idea! Good luck Mel!
Thank you 🙂
70,000 is a lot, and that must be hard to walk away from! You know what’s best for your business, and I can’t blame you. A group that size can be huge to manage! Excited to see what you have upcoming!
Thanks Lindsay 🙂
I love that you’re counting the cost of maintaining everything you’ve developed and you’re choosing what to focus on. That is great leadership and you are your team will be more successful and happy and produce more sustainable effective value to your readers, clients etc. Thanks for setting an example in this, our world needs more of this kind of thinking in order to resist the current trend toward distraction and lack of focus, and the message that we have to do it all or that everything successful by one definition must be maintained in its current form.
Thank you for saying this, Alicia. I appreciate it SO much and couldn’t agree more. For a long time, I felt like I had to “do it all” to maintain or grow my business, and it left me worn out and focusing on the wrong things (numbers, status, etc). Closing the group is me truly living in my purpose and what feels right, and I hope other people realize that they can do the same. <3
Melyssa – honestly I have to say this makes me so happy. As you know I absolutely love everything you put out – I share your content and buy your stuff (seriously, Pinfinite Growth saved and transformed my biz (thus life)! But – about 6 months ago I left your group. It didn’t really feel like your group anymore just another group full of people wanting to promote their stuff – and it didn’t feel like it was your “tribe” anymore either. I know this must have been a huge decision – but know people who still want to be part of your community will happily pay for the right to do so. I certainly will. Looking forward to finding out what events you have in the works! 🙂
Thank you so much, Clare. <3 You echo a lot of the feelings I had, too. It didn't resemble the close-knit community I want to create. Thank you for recognizing that and being so supportive. 🙂
You sensed things right. I actually left the group last night as I didn’t see any more value in it. I think that big groups loose that sense of personal connection and assistance that made us join them in the first place. Looking forward to the new ways to connect.
Thank you so much, Stephanie 🙂
Hi Melyssa
This Side Veer Singh CEO- Smile IT Solutions a Digital marketing Firm.
I read the written description and reasons why you deciding to close the group now.
But I will like to add this place is really resourceful for all 70,000 group members because group so well maintained as per your guidelines.
I really want to save this group for sake of all 70,000 members including me.
We are a Digital Marketing Firm and have our own team of Social Media Marketing Professionals.
We offer you proposal that we can give you admin for this groups without any cost. Free Admins as extended support from our company.
Still group will run as per guidelines created by you.
Let me know your thought on this.
Regards !
Veer Singh
Digital Marketing Expert
http://www.smileitsolutions.com
Hi Melyssa,
I believe this is a great move. Don’t get me wrong, you Facebook group is amazing but does not bring the value that you normally provide. I stopped hanging out because it was the same of the old same and a lot of self promotion.
I believe in small paid groups where you can provide real value for each member and where you can help genuinely every single member to succeed. That should be your main goal isn’t it?
Keep up with your awesome work.
Thank you so much, Paulo. 🙂
Hey there Melyssa. I feel like this truly resonates with your first podcast episode and I am so stinking excited for you. One thing I’ve learned from owning my own business is this.. As we grow, we evolve.. and so do our brands and that’s okay. Looking forward to what’s to come!
Amen, Lindsey. I appreciate you for saying this. <3
Hi Melyssa – Although I’m devastated the group is closing I truly respect your decision. Your letter was very well laid out and brings a new perspective to me on why you’re doing it 🙂 My only question – can you please “archive” the group?? I believe that means the group cannot accept new members and cannot have any activity, but those who are in it can search past posts to still glean the suggestions and expertise shared there. Please please please!? Also, this is prob the push I needed to sign up for one of your courses! I have a deep love and respect for all you do – you are one of the ONLY people I get excited for when I see your emails and new content 🙂 I always keep you in mind when developing my business content – you are a true role model! Much love, Rochelle
Oh, Rochelle. This comment is SO sweet and seriously means the world to me. Thank you.
Yes, the group will be archived, so no worries there. 🙂
So bummed to hear this… but I totally get that the dynamics change once a group gets to the size of 70,000 members.
Just want to say that you’re group was on the very few groups I still stayed in because of the true value it brought. It was really one of the less spammy FB groups around in my opinion.
Question? Is there a way to archive the group so that people still have access to the great advice? I think I remember seeing this in another group I was in. Members could no longer comment or post but the original posts all remained. Something to consider.
Thanks so much Melyssa for all your hardwork, amazing business tips and for providing this group for as long as you have! You’re the best!
Thank you so much, Liz. I’m really glad the group felt so valuable to you. <3
Yes, the group will be archived, so all of the posts will remain. 🙂
Good for you for honoring your truth and recognizing that if you can’t serve at your highest any longer you don’t need to carry the energy. I have a lot of respect for you Melyssa!
Thank you Daphna, that means the world to hear — you get it! <3
I’ve loved the group for so long and you’ve been such a staple in my growth and entrepreneurship journey that it’s hard to imagine it not existing… but I totally get it! It’s time to move forward and shifts require change, no matter how big or small. I’m excited for your future vision and to see what you and your team do next! <3
Thank you SO much, Allie. I really appreciate that. 🙂
Completely understand. Wishing you all the best!
Thank you Diane 🙂
I love how you are modeling what it looks like to truly step into what is in full alignment for your soul. Always the most delicious and resonant form of leadership. <3 Lots of love, mama!
That’s really sweet of you, Nikka. Thank you 🙂
It’s so interesting to hear that the reasons why many people had already left your group were in alignment with your own decisions to close it. I completely understand the overwhelm that a large group can lay on you so I support your decision. I definitely see the value in your paid courses and even your free content so am just as happy to still be a part of those communities!
It is interesting, right? And thank you for the support, Marianne 🙂
First off, thank you Melyssa for being true to yourself and your path. I can understand how your business can end up taking up more and more time to manage. I have also had a group since July 2015 and at first I was excited to see it grow as there was a community of people with similar interests, but after it reached a tipping point, it no longer attracted true new members, but instead those wanting to take advantage of the platform for self-promotion due to the audience size. I started to see it become a liability to manage and lead. I am proud of you for pursuing your purpose. There is a saying, if you love someone let them go, if they come back, it was meant to be. I truly believe you’re on the path to bigger and better things by letting go and instead focusing on your core tribe. Less is more. And if you’re happy that is what truly counts. Your message of empowerment and confidence is very strong and resonates with many people, hopefully they will understand that you are doing this with good intentions so that you can develop new projects and it’s ok to outgrow your group if it no longer fits in with your current objectives and goals. Best of luck, wishing you all the best, and once again thank you. I appreciate everything you do!
I commend you so much for staying laser-focused on your brand and your goals. I think you have helped so many people (myself included) that it’s hard not to feel guilty. Don’t! You are doing amazing things with your business. I tried to grow a Facebook group, but realized it just wasn’t for me. My new Social Media Manager wants to revive it. Reading your post makes me wonder if we shouldn’t be focusing elsewhere.
So happy to hear this post resonated for you, Nikki. You understand where I’m coming from. Thank you for your support 🙂 And if a group doesn’t seem like the best fit for you at this time, re-focus your energy on something that makes you excited and energized!
I wasn’t a part of the group but I bet it was awesome! When it’s time to move onto the next chapter of business or life you just have to take the leap! Thanks for being true to you because it’ll inspire many!
The Quirk Life
Thank you so much for understanding, Candace 🙂 You completely get it 🙂
70,000 is a lot and 12 months ago that would have wowed me but what I’ve experienced is you only have a few people who regularly visit and contribute. I couldn’t then understand how people got excited about their membership growing to large numbers because the biggest majority never set foot back inside the group or post. I guess it’s a credibility thing as well.
So true, Deborah. There will always be a small percentage who actively engage. It got too big to the point where it was losing the vision I originally set out for it when I started it. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts. 🙂